Showing posts with label patience. Show all posts
Showing posts with label patience. Show all posts

February 24, 2012

*sings like Beyonce* Say my name, say my name

my personal thoughts on why you must have balls made of kryptonite if you are going to talk shit about another group of people who you don't know.

word to the wise.....

"if you don't have anything nice to say. keep your mouth shut or MAKE SOME MOTHER FUCKING CHANGE..."

there has been some controversy in my local school district's police force and they are doing what they can to have it cleared up. apparently there was some misappropriation going on and it is being brought under control ultimately by an investigation brought on by the department. things will be okay soon.

a post about the writing in the local paper, The Sacramento Bee, was on point about how truths were twisted to put the police force and those in charge in a bad light.

but a person came in and pulled on my chain. a person posted and talked a lot of shit about a group who might be at odds with some of the goings on with the police department. he was vague to a fault..... read on.....


"There is one community within the district that is struggling with both the rule of law and with the ability to find their way in a larger community. This doesn't mean that they are bad people. They are simply struggling to find their way. I strongly suggest that they begin finding it by visiting those communities that are further along that road of community service. Discover the tools necessary to move forward rather than relying on "some" organizations which pretend to "do the work for the individual."

 

my reply

if you don't mind me asking, of which community do you speak?
i take slight offense to this comment in which you point a finger, but keep the offending party cloaked under hints of distrust and smacks of self-imposed immunity.

The use of the word "they" in my book is about as ignorant as the use of the the phrase "you people" ... please let me know because i, and many that i know, are willing to seek out this group of persons who are struggling to find their way.

i finally found out the community that he was talking about and i can 100% understand the distrust. but usually we see communities that fall apart because those who want a better life for themselves cannot look to helping all.

this writers request was for people in this neighborhood to come on down to his neck of the woods....i will bet you all the money in the United States Treasury coffers that there is no way they would allow people from this community into their houses. i see calls for the police to come out to their neighborhood to patrol for potential predatory perps.


let's take for instance, a neighborhood in Mobile AL. my mother lives there. she is a black woman. a majority of her neighbors are black but there are a few VERY old neighbors who are shall we say.... NOT BLACK! these not black neighbors are the remnants of a neighborhood that at one point in time was not black until people of color wanted better for their families and decided that a move to the suburbs was in order. my mom says it is common place that when the blacks move in the not blacks move out. my mom cemented this when she talked to me about a home health nurse she had when she had a surgery. the home health aide was a white woman and could not understand for the life of her why she was helping my mother who is a black woman. it came down to the coverage that my mother had. obviously, they had NEVER seen a black woman with that kind of coverage where i come from we call that middle class health coverage. this woman was a lost cause and had to double check a couple of times because there was no way that a black woman could have a white home health aide. THAT'S JUST NOT THE WAY IT WORKS IN THE SOUTH. hmmmmmmm

what was a i rambling about? right.

calling someone out their name. respect is not given it is earned, but you cannot draw a line in the sand if the other is not facing you.

Goddess

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February 20, 2012

A word on discipline from Goddess... to bend or not to bend?

THAT is the question.

should we as parents get totally bent out of shape when we punish our children because of a worry that we might upset them?

this is a question that i toy with all the time.

i have a child who is painfully thoughtful, smart, sensitive, and intuitive.

does that mean that i should tailor my discipline methods to cause him the least amount of harm?

does this method of parenting raise concerns with the increase in the rates of drinking among single parents?

the goddess ponders.

Goddess

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January 26, 2012

His name is PRESIDENT Obama. Not Obama!!!

Where did you learn your manners? Had a conversation the other week with some buddies on FB… i was taking issues with people referring to the POTUS by his last name only and i got some feedback that didn’t change my mind but gave me even more reason to appreciate the people whom i interact with on a daily basis. read on… my thoughts were all over the place good thing this blog is titled “Ramblings of a single parent goddess. if you want to disrespect, drop it like you are talking about your dog, but out of respect for the office of the president of the united states, we have to set the example. i think it goes without saying that the use of the word “nigger” (to be fair, this goes for “spic”, “wop”, “kike”, and a bevy of other derogatory statements) has fallen into the cracks of abuse… abuse meant with no disrespect. isn’t it funny how that phrase “and i mean no disrespect” is often followed by a disrespectful comment? even though it may be said that it is an unkind word and people chose to use phrases like “the ‘N’ word” in an attempt to save face, when a child hears it at home, they will eventually use it out in the street. what a child learns is from the adults in their world and that is not specifically mom and dad. we should be painfully mindful of the fact that Mr. Obama is President Obama and respectfully use the proper name. should we remain firm in our dedication to tossing doo doo at our president, we may want to use something more like. “that old goat President Obama” but then again, we wouldn’t say that about our momma, big momma, grand daddy, or even a priest or teacher for that matter. i heard it on NPR today. the hosts and guest on the show referred to the president by his proper title, but you could tell which callers were not particularly fond of our president. they referred to him as ‘obama’. now if it was your pet, you could say it like that……. “Dammit, obama shit on the rug again!” i am guilty of heading down that path with former President Bush 2.0. I was corrected by a child who no longer wanted to hear his parents shout at the TV. i admit, i was disrespectful and i meant it but i wasn’t thinking about the repercussions that my child was experiencing by my rotten minded attitude toward a person in that office. i think i am just rambling and this probably belongs on my blog, but i am feeling a little bit fed up today with all the shit talk. **** now for comedic purposes, i would suppose we have to let certain things go for the sake of artistic expression; perhaps in the case of Felonious Munk and his “Stop it B!” video blogs. but i still believe that when you watch his entire clip, he is talking serious mess but still refers to the President as President Obama…….. http://youtu.be/ tRmZ9zH-mYM check it! i’m just saying… **** **** and yes i am talking about that “something” that i hear in the way the president is called. i am just as guilty as the next person using a name without a title. it is just that little something that i sense and i get bent out of shape. i don’t nitpick certain people because they are civilized and bring up good points. but if i hear a disrepectful tone i do reserve the right to ask for clarification. with that said, it is the “something” that i heard in a person’s tone that brought to mind a person wrinkling their nose, raising a corner of their lip and running for the Purell when talking about President Obama. **** have i mentioned that i love that my friends are made up of such a diverse group of people? Creative Commons License
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December 21, 2011

Shut the Hell Up! It's Christmas Dammit!

There are a great many things i would like to clear out this Christmas season.... Nitpicky Grammar Nazis Jealous Lovers Whining Children Weak Drinks Want for Necessities can we put all that mess in a brown paper bag and set it afire for Christmas? the kids will be thrilled to see FIRE and the adults will be too busy putting marshmallows on sticks for the kids to roast to talk about anything but Christmas cheer. it's too damned close to Christmas to act like fools, be cheap, be without, and run around correcting folks grammar....Now if anyone wants to send a gift my way, i am sure to find some unfortunate folks in my side of the world to make happy during this holiday season of spending TIME and not necessarily MONEY on family members. Goddess Creative Commons License
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